Value

Ways to make your child feel valued


1. Make sure there is structure and rules

Your child will test his boundaries. How much depends upon the personality of the child. If those boundaries are movable, then an insecurity will be produced. You are doing your child no favor by “giving into them”. Now as a child grows older the boundaries do need to change. It does work better to have stricter boundaries when they are younger and relax the boundaries as the child grows older. It’s very difficult to reverse that order.

2. Give Grace

Children are going to make mistakes. I try to be aware of when is a teachable moment and when is not. A teachable moment is not when the child is tired or not feeling good. Parents can give their child “grace” while keeping them inside their boundaries. Grace is an act of kindness. It is offering them something that's undeserved. It affirms them with a message that says, "I love you when you are doing well, but I will also love you when you aren't